Friday, September 18, 2015
The Value of Boundaries...
Hindsight quickly revealed my mistakes.
Is this a date or are we really just “hanging out?” Is this a romantic, platonic, or sexual situation?
Every person’s body
chemistry is unique and measuring a “normal” sex drive is a naïve attempt.
Whether with somebody or self-induced, I need to have an average of one to
three orgasms a day. If I don’t, I will feel overly caffeinated, jumpy, and
Marilyn is empty because she is deprived love and respect. Jackie is empty because she is deprived passion and intimacy. John F. Kennedy is empty because he won’t allow himself the chance to find true fulfillment and compatibility in one partner.
The only way to filter him out is to get to know a man mentally and emotionally before physically.
A Local is anybody who resides within Seattle’s King County.
With the Locals: After firmly
establishing my rules, boundaries, and standards, I went on my first Local date
with red flag radar sharp, strategically equipped to write him off at the first
slip-up. After all, my strategy was designed from the flaws in every single date
I’d ever been on. I was certain it would be another awkward cocktail, digging
for interesting conversation, dodging his creeper glances and sexual advances
with my thoughts drifting off about the errands I needed to run the next
morning. I had basically written down the ideal man I’d never met. After a
decade of mismatches, I could not expect my first, post strategy Local to magically embody my fabrication.
-Be on the same page: The questions, "What are you looking for? Why are we on this date? Do you want something casual or something serious?" seem a bit intense and only add to the typical job interview feel of a first date, but they are essential. The sooner you know whether or not your mind frames parallel, the better. There seems to be this stigma against admitting to seeking something long-term, as if we should all fake nonchalance and pretend to stumble into commitment. But I refuse to compromise what I want.